I’m trying to work, but I can’t. I’m angry, confused. I feel everything and I feel nothing, all at the same time.
Just like that, without explanation or warning, my friend Andrew was gone. And all I have left is the fortunate ability to remember to keep myself composed.
We came up at the Village Fitness Center together. When I first met him, he came in as a new member at the gym, and I was with the Service Desk. He was a skinny kid right before, and as I like to joke, the gamma ray accident turned him into the Hulk that everyone knew and loved. In reality, he was extremely dedicated and focused at his craft, and the physical feats he reached are proof of this.
Shortly he began an internship and eventually became a certified personal trainer with the VFC Family. After garnering success, he took his work to other locations within the company – Federal Fitness, Avalon Bay, and Fillmore to name a few. After several great years with us, he moved to Los Angeles, and found more success in the fitness industry. The sky was the limit for Andrew, and everyone that knew him believed this with complete certainty.
One of the best memories I have with Andrew was Halloween, had to have been close to six years ago. We were at a party in the city, and I’m pretty sure that, and this is something that happened way to often than it should during this previous version of myself, I forgot many of the details toward the end of the night.
But I do remember this – I was a cop. Aviator shades, vest, and two colorful water guns. There were other cops with me, and we looked really cool. I’m talking about other-side-of-the-pillow cool, trust me.
Not as cool as Andrew, though. He waltzes in as Akuma from the Street Fighter video games. He had it down to the details – the attire, the wraps, and of course, the muscles. The guy was built like a statue, and it was safe to say he stole the show.
Andrew wasn’t much of a drinker then, in fact I don’t think he ever had one up to that time. Until, this Halloween party. Maybe he was intimidated by my water guns (that probably shot out a liquid that rhymes with Pequila later in the night), maybe it was my pheromones that eventually changed his mind, or maybe – and this is what I will believe – maybe it’s because he loved me like a brother, and because of this, he was going to have a drink with me.
And yes, I loved him, too.
We go to the bar, and I tell Andrew, “F&#% it man, bring your boys too. I got all of you.” Side bar, when I drink, everyone drinks. That’s my own little life rule.
“Four Jameson shots my good dude,” I tell the bartender. We toast to… something. Maybe we toasted to being gym rats, or to friendship, or to the Akuma character, or to the fact that the Giants were one more game away from winning their first World Series in the San Francisco era. We took it like champs, hugged and high-fived like bros, and took more photos at the photo booth in the other room because we were that much full of ourselves. Andrew then tells me, “That was my first shot in my life.”
I bought Andrew’s very first shot, and I truly take that as a high honor. They say that you never forget your firsts, and I hope this rings true with Andrew. Because I will never forget him.
You always think that life gives you chances for another round, but that’s never the case. This is another reminder that the only chances in life are the ones you take.
As I remember Andrew, I am reminded how unpredictable all of this is, and that anything can be taken away at any given time. I’m reminded to continue to take those chances every day, no matter how big or small, because just how Andrew easily displayed, greatness is manifested from those with the will to win, not from those who are afraid to fail.
I am reminded to continue to live in the honor for those we’ve all lost in our lives, and pave the way for others after us to adopt the same. The best thing in this world is what we have between each other. Not of things made of matter, but things that matter – conversations, moments, laughs, undocumented sights, and unrecorded sounds.
This is the privilege of remembrance, and Andrew – my colleague, my former co-worker, and most of all, my good friend – it has been an amazing privilege to have had you in my life.
PERFECT TIMING 